Do your research
Everyone should know the drill- do a simple Google search before meeting people you have met online. That doesn’t mean become a stalker, that just means make sure you have at least some idea as to who they are before you meet with them. If possible, try to find pictures and see what additional information comes up about the person beyond Facebook and Instagram. It’s never been easier to research to people online before you meet.
Chat by phone before meeting
Go “old-school” and reach out by phone before your first meet up, jam or pint in the pub. Why is this a good idea? Talking by phone allows you to hear the other individual and to pick up on certain verbal cues that may be hidden through instant messaging or texts, Additionally, this gives you the chance to feel out the individual better before first meeting.
Video chat before meeting
Today, there are so many ways to video chat with the ability to use Zoom, Teams, FaceTime, Google Hangouts, Skype and even Facebook for video calls. It’s a good idea to get a glimpse of the people you are meeting beforehand. This could also help to reduce the risk of being ‘catfished’ by someone claiming to be someone they are not.
Tell someone else where you are going
That brings us to the next tip- let someone else know who your are meeting, where you are going, when you expect to be home and any other important details. It gives you the comfort of knowing someone else knows where you’re supposed to be if something goes wrong.
Don’t give out too much personal info upfront
Be careful about the information you share. Don’t give out places you normally visit, your family members’ locations, your birthday and other personal information so quickly. After you and your new band members get to know each other a little better and feel more comfortable, then you can share a little more about yourself.
One big mistake that people tend to make while meeting strangers is drinking without being mindful that they may not have the best intentions. While women may seem like the only individuals whose safety is at risk, men also need to be cautious when meeting people you have met online.
Drive yourself or use public transport
Don’t accept the invitation to carpool- take your own vehicle or use public transportation if possible. If you car share or accept a lift then they would find out where you live and essentially have control over where you go. Taking your own vehicle also lowers the risk of putting yourself in an uncomfortable or even dangerous situation because you’ll be in control over where you go.
Be mindful where you meet
The first meet up should always be in a pub or coffee shop where possible for that initial chat to see if you can work with these new people. Avoid going somewhere private, instead, meet at a public place where there are plenty of people around where there’s typically a good crowd. In the event that you feel uncomfortable, there will be other people around who can help. Additionally, this gives a family member or friend the opportunity to be present or in the vicinity should something go wrong.
As another great tip, if you visit a bar or restaurant, let a bartender or waitress know if things aren’t going right through code. Some bars have secret codes that guests could use to notify a staff member that something’s off-key.
Basically these are similar to online dating tips, it’s the same priciples to stay safe. I’ve included a link below which goes a lot deeper in how to stay safe with people you have met online. Good luck with your new project.
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